The Lost Art of Play
I recently had two separate doctor appointments, with kids in tow of course, and I ended up having essentially the same conversation one week apart. It was sort of surreal and I thought I’d write a little post about it to see what you all think.
Here’s how it went down…
Appointment number one
Appointment number one was first thing in the morning and my children hadn’t had a chance to run in the yard or to play yet, so the energy level was high. And they were a bit on the loud side. Fortunately, we were the only ones in the waiting room. T had brought Linda to the appointment and Leo also had a baby doll with him. Seuss had opted for the Marvel Encyclopedia. The three were lost in a little world of babies and monsters and superheroes.
My children do this often. They make up a game, or a scenario, and they play it out… often loudly. This day was no different. They were In It. They were so In It that if you were to say one of their names you would not get an answer. They were somewhere else, far away, in the world of imagination.
And I was doing what I usually do in these situations: I was reading my book. And I was In It. I was so in it that if you called my name, I would not hear you.
When the nurse called my name, for the second time, I stood up and had to tap each of them on their little shoulders to get their attention so that they would know to follow me.
The nurse smiled and said, “Wow. They were playing, like the good old days. It’s like a lost art!”
A lost art.
It was too chaotic to carry on the conversation, but I thought to myself how sad if this type of play, the play I enjoyed as a young child, is becoming a lost art.
And then I had to don a johnny and deal with a sibling squabble, a fat lip, a stubbed toe, and a three-year-old bathroom emergency so I thought nothing more about it until…
Appointment number two
One week later, I found myself at another doctor appointment. Again, it was early morning and my kids were hyped up. This time, the waiting room had toys: three large stuffed bears, a rocking horse, a yoga ball, and a doll house. They were playing Baby, a game that I absolutely can’t stand. Baby is quite elaborate and my children love to play it together but it requires the use of The Baby Voice. Folks, I loathe The Baby Voice. It’s like nails on a chalkboard to me. Actually, it’s worse than nails on a chalkboard. It’s equivalent to squeaky balloon finger noises or gross mouth noises. (Okay, yes. I am fully aware that I have my own auditory sensitivity. This is why I am constantly pining for those Bose noise-reducing headphones!) Schizz always says I should accept Baby because our children are always so happy when they are playing it. During Baby, there is no fighting, no yelling, no drama. And I love that they have created a game and made memories that they will remember forever, I do. I just wish it didn’t involve The Baby Voice because I HATE IT.
I digress….
So there I am, sitting in the waiting room, reading my book, and trying extremely hard to ignore The Baby Voice, when the doctor calls my name.
I smile and turn toward her and I can see that she’s smiling too, but she’s watching my children playing Baby.
“Wow,” she said. “They’re really playing. It’s like a lost art!”
A lost art.
Again.
There it was again! It felt surreal to have the same conversation, in a different place, with a different person. Was it just a weird fluke in this universe, or is it something more?
Is play becoming a lost art?
I’d love to hear from you guys. Do you think play is becoming a lost art? Do you think children are too overscheduled? Are they lacking that wonderful space between? Share your thoughts here. I love hearing from you!
This post has been part of the September 2015 Play Matters Blog Hop. Please click the image below to keep on hoppin’!
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Caitlin Fitzpatrick Curley
Cait co-hosts The Homeschool Sisters Podcast and is co-founder of Raising Poppies, a community for parents of gifted and twice-exceptional children. Cait is also founder of the Family Book Club at My Little Poppies, a fantastic community of book-loving parents and the Gameschool Community at My Little Poppies, a vibrant community of gameschoolers.
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I happen to think that kids tend to be over-scheduled these days, and it’s easy to fall into the trap of signing them up for everything. It can be hard to fight against the tide, but what they really need is some free time to play, create and imagine! I love that your kids have games that they play together, complete with annoying voices 😉 Thanks so much for participating in the Play Matters blog hop!
Thank you, Janine, and thank you for the opportunity to participate. I love this topic.
Yes. It is a lost art. And, yes, many kids are overscheduled. I’m writing a book to help parents see the value of play…
I can’t wait to read it!!! I’ll review it for you, my friend!
Posts like this always leave me confused. Yes, kids are over scheduled. That’s our fault as the parents. I don’t kids play any less now than when we were little. My daughter plays with the neighborhood kids all the time. They run all over the neighborhood playing. And I know we’re not the neighborhood that does this. As a child, I remember my mom nagging my friends and I to put the magazines down or get off the phone that go play. I think we, as adults, tend to have faulty memory of life when we were young.
I replied over at GHF, Junett. I respectfully disagree. I believe play has changed a great deal since we were young. I think it’s wonderful that you live in a place where it is valued as it used to be. My neighborhood is quite different than what you describe. There are a wealth of pressures on parents nowadays. The play of old is viewed as negligent by many today. Gone are the days of the kids roaming the neighborhood until dinner. And that’s not a faulty memory of mine- that’s what we did if the weather was decent. So I respectfully disagree, but I appreciate your comment and viewpoint.
Times have changed a lot. I think it is valid to site changes to our neighborhoods, busy schedules, TV, video games, etc. Parents spending quantity time with children and encouraging them to use their imaginations and allowing them the freedom to just play are giving them both self-confidence and valuable skills for their adult lives.
As a manager I get so frustrated with employees who cannot use their imaginations to trouble-shoot a problem or brainstorm resolutions. Maybe we can learn the art of play as adults and still develop our imaginations.
Your thoughts?
Hi Lauree,
Your comment made me think of an article that I recently read and it touches upon this topic. I know that I would love to play more- I think it keeps us young and creative 🙂
Here’s a link: http://www.popsci.com/science/article/2013-01/dazzling-sometimes-absurd-always-playful-genius-erik-demaine
I am very old school and I force my kids to play without the iPad and or TV. My daughter plays wonderfully on her own and her baby brother-Thank God! Do they still watch Tv and YouTube on their iPad absolutely but it’s all about balance. I also have each kid signed up in 1 activity per week. It’s very sad that many kids these days are not given the opportunity to use their imagination but everyone has got to do what works for them!