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Your kiddo is insatiably curious.
She peppers you with questions all day long. Google is your best friend.
She is ball of movement from sun-up 'til sundown... and sometimes long after sundown.
She's unlike her peers.
Sometimes, she seems so mature. She'll chat with adults about the novel she is reading. She's precocious and engaging. She's such an old soul.
Other times, she seems incredibly young and anxious. (Like the other night, when she woke you up because she was deeply afraid the sun was going to burn out.)
You can barely keep up, and you don't know what to do.
The school doesn't seem to know what to do either.
You're considering - gasp! - homeschooling. You don't really want to, but you're running out of options.
You feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, and completely alone.
But you aren't alone...
You write about giftedness and asynchronicity in a way that makes me feel seen.
Before I found your blog I felt alone. I felt like no one really took me seriously when I said that traditional homeschool curriculum or the curriculum that it seemed everyone used just didn’t work for my son... When I stumbled upon your blog I cried tears of joy. I had finally found someone who understands and not only that but I found someone who offered suggestions of what to use to homeschool gifted kids!
I love your game and book recommendations and you are so encouraging. I especially love how you make joy a priority in your home and how you make learning purposeful and fun. Thank you for all your help!
Imagine waking up tomorrow with a smile on your face because you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that your child's unique needs are being met.
Imagine your child immersed in delight-driven learning and creative pursuits.
Imagine connecting with your child over delicious read-alouds, fantastic games, and a patchwork of creative learning resources.
Imagine a more connected, joy-filled homeschool.
... but, at the end of the school day, he threw himself into my car, shoulders slumped, eyes brimming with tears.
Once safe at home, he turned into a mushy mess of a little boy.
Each day he arrived home with a little less spark, a little less joy... and a folder filled with white slips listing all the ways he didn't fit in that proverbial box.
No one should be misunderstood at age five.
We tried to work with the school, but the truth is that public educators don't receive enough training on how to best serve these kids.
(Trust me, I know. I am a school psychologist and I had one conversation about gifted education during my graduate training at Tufts University. One.)
The public school failed our outside-the-box kiddo and we found ourselves suddenly, unexpectedly, homeschooling.
I found myself relying on my background in education and child development, but in a new and unconventional way.
When I started homeschooling, I worried that I would fail him. I thought we would drive each other crazy.
I never thought we'd have so much fun.
I so wish my own parents had had this information available to them when I was a kid... it would have saved both them and me years of heartache... Thank you for providing a place and a community where people can talk honestly about their unique problems and have others not only understand but offer support and suggestions.
My husband and I have been really considering homeschooling for awhile now and after I read some of your blog posts I just started crying because my daughter sounds so much like your son. I knew then that homeschooling is what will benefit her best. Your blogs, which I just happened to stumble upon on Pinterest, gave us the confidence to make that decision.
Many thanks for this and for all you do to breath life into the homeschool community (especially for those of us with atypical and asynchronous learners!!) — your voice is valuable, thank you.
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I found your blog when searching for info on gifted kids and home learning. My eldest has never been tested but we suspect he falls into that category and it’s very lonely. People always think you’re bragging when you say your child is gifted, but really, its not that at all. It’s actually super hard and confusing and I just want to feel like I’m not going crazy, as gifted kiddos can really make one feel that way!
I too left a professional career to homeschool my twice exceptional son. Your descriptions of struggling with sensory processing disorder and supporting asynchrony in gifted kids were very helpful when we were first seeking an evaluation for him.
I'm an unexpected homeschooler with a highly/profoundly gifted 7yo with anxiety, sensory issues, and asynchronous development. (Sound familiar?!) I was a teacher and homeschooling was never even on my radar until kindergarten was a disaster for my kid. We are pretty eclectic homeschoolers and LOVE game schooling and spending time outside as much as possible. Basically, I stumbled across you online and found so many parallels between my family and yours, and it's so nice feeling like I'm not alone out here on those days when I'm sure I'm doing it all wrong.
Gifted kids blow through traditional curriculum with warp speed.
It is important to find a patchwork of creative resources that work for your child.
Here is what worked for us:
One night, when I went to tuck him in for the night, I found my oldest son sobbing. He was afraid to fall asleep. Over the years, he has had a number of bedtime fears, so this was nothing to new to me. I sat down on his bed, rubbed his back, and waited.
“Mumma,” he began, “the dinosaurs are extinct…” his voice trailed off and he succumbed to the tears once more.
I unearthed my sweet boy from his twisted-tornado sheets and snuggled him in my arms. I held him there, squeezing his sad little body, and I waited for him to share more.
“The dinosaurs are extinct and the scientists don’t know why. They are extinct for an unknown reason. What if we all die, and become extinct for some unknown reason?! What if we die and we’re gone forever?!”
And thus began our fear-of-death-and-extinction-phase. I wasn’t able to tackle the fear that night. It persisted for weeks. I mean, let’s be honest here, the kid had a point.
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